Facts: WHATSAPP S*X

Many believe that thanks to Whatsapp relationships are running out, but the truth is that they are reinventing themselves and now the raised tone emoticons are a great ally.

Sex by Whatsapp is what is known as “sexting“, a practice that consists of sending messages or images with sexual content suggestive or explicit through social networks, in this case only by Whatsapp.

Like the “sexting” that is more global, sex by Whatsapp has some advantages and disadvantages that we then teach you to decide if you want to risk it or not.

The heater: The possibility of practicing at any time and place makes it ideal for those moments where the desire is stronger.

Better sex: This practice is associated with people who have little sexual intercourse, but who seek new help not to neglect their partner. A study by Drexel University in the United States indicates that those who use sexting are better dry in the sense that it enriches the person and the relationship.

It is different and fun: Sex by Whatsapp helps increase desire and is a preliminary of physical contact, as it is ideal for anticipation and for the imagination to make their own. This happens because it stimulates the brain and causes us to release chemicals related to attraction and sexual desire.

Disadvantages of sex by Whatsapp

Extortion: If the images fall into the hands of people we do not want, we can suffer extortion.

It becomes viral: One of the biggest risks of sex by Whatsapp is that the images become viral. This type of content could be published on sex portals or shared on social networks.

Legal issues: Sexually explicit images may be considered sexual harassment if the recipient does not want them. It may also happen that the person with whom we have sexted intends to make an economic profit.

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Facts: 11 Facts About The Female Clitoris

 

Among the reasons reported for not commenting on these issues with anyone, the women consulted for the research cite the lack of information available on the subject.

For the sake of women, therefore, it is necessary to stimulate discussion about the body and functioning of the female organism, and this includes – of course – the vagina. Check out some myths and truths about the appearance and functioning of this organ:

1. They have the ability to stretch

Truth! According to gynecologist Mariana Maldonado, the female sexual organ adapts to the shape of any object that is inserted into it or that has to pass through it, from an internal absorbent to a baby.

2. Having too much sex and going through a normal birth enlarges the vagina

Myth! The vagina is anatomically capable of expanding to accommodate small, large, thin, and broad things. The passage of a baby is perfectly possible and, after this happens, it returns to the normal form.

Following this reasoning, if the canal is able to stretch for a baby to pass and can resume the original shape in a matter of days, it is not an internal absorbent or a penis that will make it permanently wide.

Mariana says, however, that there are some exceptions; If there is any complication during childbirth or if it is not properly attended, it may be that the woman is injured in the region of the perineum, the stretch of skin that lies between the vagina and the anus. According to her, the perineum is what gives muscular support to the region of the vagina and, when injured, can generate problems. In cases like these, there are repair surgeries that help resolve the issue.

3. Being long without sex makes a woman “return to being a virgin”

Myth! According to the gynecologist, it is possible that after a long period of time without having sex, the woman becomes more tense when it comes to sex. The nervous at the time H, whether the woman is virgin or not, causes the vaginal muscles to contract, which may give the impression that the canal is tighter, but the fact that the region has not been manipulated for a long time has not Causes it to undergo any anatomical changes.

4. They are all the same inside and out.

Myth! Contrary to what occurs in the creation of men, women are not encouraged to talk about sexuality or explore their own bodies. With this, many of them are too embarrassed to ask or search about their own anatomy.

This behavior causes many women to be insecure about the appearance of the vulva itself, ie the outside of the organ. The vaginas that are shown in porn movies and sensual essays are very similar to each other, but according to the gynecologist, the only thing that is the same for all is the inner part of the organ. She explains that, just as there are penises of varying shapes, inclinations and sizes, there are vulvas with smaller, larger lips of different skin tones and shapes.

So, no feeling that your little friend is the ugly duckling of the vaginas. Know your unique region and keep in mind that it does not need to follow a pattern.

5. The region has its own (and good)

Truth! According to the gynecologist, the organ not only has bacteria of the vaginal flora but also has organisms responsible for defending it and ensuring that there is a balance in the system as a whole. With this balance, good bacteria and those that can cause infections like Canadianism coexist in harmony.

This harmony, however, can be broken. “When this balance is broken, either because the immunity is fragile, because of a disease that favors this imbalance or because of poor hygiene habits, the woman may have some symptoms that something is not right,” says Mariana.

6. Doing internal washes is good for the vagina

Myth! The doctor says that the homemade showers are not indicated unless there is a medical recommendation for some specific reason. According to her, many women resort to this process on their own because they think that, in this way, they will be cleaner, but apart from the washing remove the bacteria that can be harmful to health, it also removes the defense of the vaginal region. “It’s a shot in the foot because it increases the chances of the woman having infections,” explains Mariana.

According to the doctor, cleaning can be done on the outside of the vagina, but never with the same soap used on the body or very elaborate makeup products. The ideal is to use a soap that is neutral so that the pH of the region does not become unregulated.

7. It is possible to lose an internal absorbent inside it

Myth! Did you put an inner tampon, forgot to remove it, and the cord disappeared?

Without panic, he sure is still there, just stood out of his reach. “We are not a bottomless bag, we are a bottomless bag. The absorbent will not get lost in a cosmic universe, “teases the gynecologist. If the cord broke or a piece of the absorbent got stuck and the woman can not remove it, it is important to get professional help.

8. The region has an odor that varies from person to person

Truth! Like all natural odors in the body, the vaginal region also has its own. “Our odors are also variable, some are more pronounced than others and the vagina would not be any different. It can vary from woman to woman and is also very influenced by inflammations that she can have and not even realize, due to an STD and to use inappropriate products such as talcum powder, deodorants and intimate protectors, “explains Mariana.

9. The vagina can be exercised

Truth! The pelvic region is composed of muscles and, like any other body muscle, it can be exercised. Techniques such as yoga and even tantra can awaken body awareness and help the woman to exercise the region. This ends up generating benefits for both sex life and health, since they help even those who have urinary incontinence.

10. So with the penis, the clitoris also has erections

Truth! The gynecologist explains that the clitoris and penis have the same embryological origin, that is, they are formed in the same way during the process of dividing the cells that create the human embryo. Depending on the sex of that embryo, the organ will develop in one form or another. “The clitoris has the same internal structure as a penis, but it is less developed. It does have an erection process, but usually this is not noticeable by the size of the organ, ” she explains.

11. The clitoris is exclusively for pleasure

Truth! Unlike men, whose sexual organ has other functions besides giving pleasure, the small clitoris is a very dedicated organ and only serves to provide pleasure to the woman.

So, do you still need more reason to understand, appreciate, and take care of your vagina?

Lifestyle: 6 Good Places To Have Quick S*x

Lack of time can be a very important factor for the relationships of couples; It is up to them to engage in their relationship and pay attention to their sex life.

That is why it is important to set aside a small space of your day to have quickie sex that can be just as pleasurable as a long preliminary session, especially if couples practice it in forbidden or unusual places .

So that you can enjoy an exciting center, we present the six best places to have quickie sex :

1. In the watering can start with a quickie in the shower. Freshly awakened and excited, full of water and soaps. In the showers couples can have fun for a while or rush things to have a full day of energy.

2. A bathroom : it can be the one of your parents, the one of a friend, the one of the house of your uncles … to escape together and to be locked in a bath to have a quick and very sexy encounter will not hurt anybody.

3. In the car : it is a classic but it is still very exciting and intense because it is very easy for someone to find them in full operation. In addition, it can be in the middle of the street or in some solitary parking lot.

4. The elevator : it is the fantasy of many and the most dangerous and exciting place. When you have sex in the elevator, couples are very exposed to being discovered, but that increases the excitement and excitement, so it is very likely that they reach an incredible orgasm .

5. A hotel : this is another classic that does not stop being good. If both are very desperate to get their hands on each other, it is best to stop at a hotel on the way and be carried away by passion.

6. Any unexpected place : this happens when someone in the relationship takes the initiative. It can be in the living room, in the closet, in the pool … what matters is to take the other unawares and have a pleasurable express sex.

Goviralnaija Exclusive: Is Modeling Prostitution?

Many  persons  in and outside  the showbiz  industry  have in  so  many  times , tagged Entertainers  as  flirts,womanizers, Promiscus, prostitutes  etc.

How True ?

Entertainers range from Musicians, Actors, Filmmakers, comedians, to  models. It is a  lime-light  friendly career and as such meeting new persons every day is a norm ,and the  quest  to ‘’mingle ‘’ ‘’flirt’’ is quite Enormous male and female alike, Entertainers have a high tendency to flirt or prostitute either for money, opportunities or mere Self pleasure.

Are models prostitutes?

This is a very big question I will try to proffer an answer to in my almost 10years around models. Models have quite the highest rate of promiscuity & flirtatiousness amongst Entertainers, not because they earn the most, but because an average model is desperate and purpose un-defined.

People get  into modeling  undefined , simply  may be because some persons tell  them  how  ‘’model like‘’ they look or  walk, some because their friends or siblings have ‘’made’’ it, modeling, others simply  because they love  the  concept of  being  called a model, or  the perception  that models get freebies and fame.

This mindset tends to lure models into series of sexual melo dramas.

What do “models” prostitute for?

In no particular order of importance, an average model will likely flirt or prostitute for the following under listed reasons:

1.     Money: Money truly makes the world go round, and as they  say ‘’Cash rules  everything around  me’’, this is one major reason models Can go all out to give out their body.

With  the  right pay sum, a model fetches money to pay her unending, ostentatious personal bills e.g  make up kits, shoes,  bags, jewelries, clothing, e.t.c. some go ‘’charitable’’ by taking friends to club and  buying  the  most  exotic of drinks as to gain the attention of newer potentials clients in the club who will likely replenish their expenses at the end of that  night, when they go private.

This category of models usually hide under  the auspices of  ushering, social escort, hostesses , pageant beauty Queens. e.t.c.

2.     Opportunities –  Though  opportunities  may have  financial rewards at  the end  of the day, but  most  models will give  out their body when presented with  sultry opportunities e.g  a trip to Dubai, Paris Joburg  e.t.c., some will do same, for a night out with  celebrities, government officials, oil industry moguls.etc.

Opportunities also come in form of model job slots for ushering, runway, vixens e.t.c., models become vulnerable when there are strict audition /casting procedures. And will rather want to circumvent by using their bodies to give such opportunities or position when presented.

This is prevalent in most beauty pageants especially, where tickets need to be sold out to meet the requirement of the organizers or to gain a crown.

 

3.     Self-Pleasure-This may sound ridiculous with the level of self-deceit that exist in the industry, but most models in addition to the reasons listed earlier, indulge in sex gratifying acts for the soul purpose of  self pleasure.

True Story: I have a female model friend who left Benin to meet a Music video director in Lagos, who had earlier contacted her on Facebook for a portfolio build up photo session, to cut the long story short, she slept with the music Video director after a long day actual photo shoots, when I ask her why? She simply said “He was cute jor!”  And that alone was the basis for sex? Correct me if I am wrong, not all models are victims of harassment, coerciveness, or black mail to sex, some simply have that nostalgia to flirt.

Every top model I have encountered (Oh yes, I have met a lot of them) and I have graciously conversed with on very friendly notes, have confessed to me one sexual escapade or another as models, little no wonder people see models as prostitutes no matter the aspect of modeling being undertaken.

WHAT DO I THINK OF MODELS?

-In my candid opinion, I honestly do not think an average model is a prostitute, if they truly define what they are modeling for.

The aspect of modeling one decide to join also those not literally mean, such a person must prostitute, it is a mind factor, the discipline of self in the presence of temptation and luring conditions makes a whole difference.

– I do know a beauty Queen who is a virgin, we also have seen girls who back out of pageants when the ‘assignment’ became demeaning, or out of their moral status.

-I know its rare, but I do believe some social escorts/Atmosphere models have boundaries to what service they can render at any given job offer.

-Fashion Runway Models Are Not Left Out; as I have come to know that they are so prone to flirting for opportunities the most. Oh yes!

– Commercial Editorial Models– this model category usually should have little or nothing to do in the sexual arena, but it is a man’s world and beauty is catalyst to sexual tendencies, so they also affected unfortunately.

“Don’t hate the player, hate the game”, it is a thing of choice and it differs from person to person, Modeling is like every other noble career, the players make the difference.

–“Models Are Not Prostitutes, Human beings Are” Khris ( 2017)

(I can give a lot of true life stories of models and their shared encounters. May be in subsequent articles) On this  blog.

Facts: Benefits Of S*x At Noon

A recent study revealed that because of day-to-day responsibilities, many couples end up too exhausted and just seek rest. So the sex at noon help refresh your relationship partner.

Before the question, what is the best time of day to have sex ? Many people believe that the night for sex ; However, a study published by the US National Sleep Foundation shows that many times this is not the case.

And because of the responsibilities, many couples end up their day too exhausted and only seek rest. That is why, according to the study, one in four people, whether married or cohabiting, end up exhausted the day as for sex.

Another group of people leave sex for the morning, but this does not allow them to get to work on time, and again they have to postpone the intimate encounter. This is how you come to the conclusion that having sex at noon helps to refresh your relationship.

Fatigue would be the main reason that 20% of people only have sex less than 10 times a year. Which endangers the good relationship of couple. “When people lose their habit or that feeling of sexiness, they close a great opportunity to connect and get closer to each other,” says psychologist Michelle Gannon.

 

Fact: Reasons why Having Sex During Pregnancy is Great

Pregnancy is one of the most disturbing moments in female hormones, physical appearance and emotions. Many women say that everything changes as soon as they begin to carry a baby in the belly and sex becomes a subject not so simple and uncomplicated thus.

Although many couples put sex to the foreground when a woman becomes pregnant, the truth is that sexual practice is not only beneficial to the pregnant woman, but also to the baby – and, of course, to the couple’s love life.

Benefits to have sex in pregnancy

According to sexologist and therapist Ana Sierra, sex helps to release stress, lose some fears, and even explore unexplored parts of the body .

The specialist stresses that hormonal changes may even negatively interfere with sexual desire, but that the couple should do everything to keep the flame burning, especially when trying new positions and new practices that are comfortable for both. Caresses, massages and kisses have space at any time, and may even be the springboard for a more active sex life during gestation.

Besides the fact that there is no risk to the baby – this, of course, when practicing safe sex – sexual activity during pregnancy does not cause pain or discomfort. In fact, as the woman is more sensitive, sex can even intensify orgasm and pleasure during the act.

 

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Lifestyle: Things your Woman Love About Sex

Many men ignore what women like about having sex , but you wonder what would happen if they could read your mind for a moment. Surely one of these practices is on your list of preferences.

#1. The preliminaries

Having an orgasm is something complicated. Something that requires concentration, knowledge, time and desire. And yes, we are heavy on the subject; But it is that preliminaries are fundamental in reaching orgasm; Especially for women. They give us access to mutual trust and more enjoyable sexual enjoyment.
Look into our eyes. The look is very important for women, not only because we feel more sensual, but because we need to “know” that he is there with us.

#2. The oral sex

One of the sex with which enjoyed the most. This is an intimate activity that helps us to have a faster orgasm. The stimulation with the tongue and the lips is more pleasant, since it is direct and there is much lubrication. Cunnilingus implies nonchalance on our part, since we only have to concentrate on receiving pleasure.

#3. Feeling pleased

For us it is vital that our own pleasure is important for him, that he be careful to please us, that he exploits us. A study by the famed Kinsey Institute found that the happiest men are those who attach importance to the orgasms of their partners.

#4. Sex a little wild

Contrary to what many men think, when we women are in bed we do not want to be treated between cottons. A cheek in the buttocks and bites are always welcome, almost always very exciting (as long as they do not produce pain!

#5. Sex position doggy style

Doggy style is one of the favorite position of men and women since time immemorial. When we place ourselves in this position, we give the man control of penetration and directly stimulate the point, achieving a very deep penetration. If you want to add intensity, you can include the stimulation of the clitoris with a clitoris simulator.

#6. High-voltage words

According to the author of the Passionate book, Ian Kerner: “Saying or listening to hot phrases stimulates the transmission of dopamine, which plays a large role in sexual arousal.” That is to say, far from making the ridiculous, to mention what you would like to do to your partner or that your partner made you, sensual way, accelerates the engines of both before and during the act.

Lifestyle: Things Women Who Are Good In Bed Do

 

It writes a lot about what they should do in bed to please the woman. It is normal for sex articles to be focused on the male sector: most have no idea how to treat a female under the sheets (or out of bed, but that’s another topic). From this section we want to be equal, so today we will dedicate a theme to what women have to do in the matter of sexual relations . In addition, to finish being totally fair, we must recognize that there are many girls who have no idea how to be a ten in bed.

The reasons for their malpractice are different from theirs. As a general rule, they do not know how to act, and they know but are bound for dozens of reasons. One of the most powerful, says sexologist Tracey Cox in ‘ The Daily Mail ‘, is the fear they have to think that if they behave wildly horizontally, their beloved will stop seeing with eyes of “future wife” and alone As a “lover”

Women who are considered good in bed are not cut at the first step. Many strongly desire it, they insinuate themselves, but they fail to act.

They try not to be the girl whore or bitch because they want to take them home to meet their parents.But they forget that girl ‘bitch’ (in bed) is the one that will snatch her place in the relationship” , Says the expert, who recommends that all women behave with their beloved (or that being they have just met) as they really feel, without falling into stupid and outdated prejudices.

The sex in all its variables, is made to be enjoyed, as a couple or alone. In the first case, moreover, that is why they (and they) must be carried away (always with health ahead) when they are together. Dedicated to them, Tracey exposes the eight things that every woman who is considered “good in bed” does. Attentive:

1) Take the initiative

“She never takes the first step” or “I always have to be the one who initiates the sexual relationship ” are the main male complaints in this very intimate area. Tracey is clear: if you always let him be the one to start, bad. Women who are considered good in bed will not be cut at the beginning of the relationship. Many want it with force, they insinuate themselves, but they do not get to act. Enough, if you want, let him know. They love it.

2) They have no prejudices

Often happens. He proposes something new in bed and she answers with a resounding NO !, intrinsically linked to the thought ” I always knew it was weird “. Woman, free yourself. Maybe you even like it. We are obviously referring to common propositions. Everyone has rather strange fantasies or predilections. The subject of the same considers them “peculiarities”, while his partner can see them as “perverted”.

It has always been said that you can see if someone is good or bad in bed depending on how much or little they like to give and receive oral sex.

“If your partner suggests you do something you’ve never raised, you think Will this make me hurt me (or him or a third person ) physically or emotionally? If the answer is no, what are you waiting for ? The open-minded women Are what men consider cracks in bed, “Tracey says.

3) They are not afraid to say ‘NO’

Related to the previous point, do not always say yes. Not much less. Women who say yes to each and every request for the sole purpose of pleasing their partner is anything but sexy . The sexologist reports that he was once a man at her practice, and told her that she had completely lost the desire for her girlfriend because everything he proposed was accepted and acted upon by her. “It was too obvious that there was no enjoyment on both sides,” says the expert.
The boy in question claimed that his partner watched him carefully to see if he was enjoying himself, completely forgetting his own pleasure. “Actually, he had no idea what she liked because he never let her know.”

Tracey says that occasionally you have to please the couple doing things that they like, but also ask. ” Sexual honesty is essential .”

4) They like to try new things

“I have hundreds of e-mails on this subject: ‘Why do not you want to see porn with me / let me shave your sex / put your shoes on during intercourse / look at us in a mirror / masturbate for me / leave without underwear?’ “What is basically drawn from all these issues is the refusal of some women to do things they have never seen or done before,” says Tracey.

The thing is clear: imagine that you always have hamburger , which you love but … you end up tired after a while. For with relationships, the same thing happens: sleeping with the same person is like having the same food over and over again. That is why we need to innovate from time to time.

5) Praise the penis

Men are not only concerned about the size of their manly limbs: also how long they stay hard and how they look (whether it’s pretty or ugly). Those who are good in bed often pay attention to their partner’s penis: they look at him, talk to him (within limits), praise him (‘oh, how big and hard’) … and they love it.

6) They are very good at oral sex

It has always been said (and we fully agree) that you can see if someone is good or bad in bed depending on how much or how little they like to give and receive oral sex .

If your partner suggests you do something you’ve never considered, think it will hurt me ?? If the answer is no, what are you waiting for?

Think about it: there is nothing more intimate than letting the other person put his or her mouth on your genitals, or vice versa. Much more personal than standard intercourse. “Oral sex is the most personal side of relationships, and doing it (and receiving it) means you ‘re not scrupulous and you accept that sex is chaotic and sweaty.”

7) They guide you under the sheets

All men want to be the best that has gone through the sheets of their current couple. A little for ego and a little for love towards the other person, because there is nothing more beautiful than to make enjoyment to whom one loves. As we said at the beginning of the topic, they often do not do well because they simply do not know . That is why it is good for her to give directions, and only those that are good, sexually speaking.

“He wants instructions on how to give you pleasure, but he does not want to ask for fear of looking silly,” says Tracey. You can be more subtle: when he does something that you like exactly as you like, let him know with a “keep doing exactly that”.

8) Make noise (but not too much)

Did you ever have sex with someone who was super-weary and did not make a sound? We do, and it’s quite disconcerting. It looks like you’re dead or a robot. Just as disturbing are those individuals who do not stop talking or moaning very loudly . There is a point in between that is the just, and the same that the ‘sex cracks’ dominate to perfection.

Go ahead! Sex is life, do not tell you otherwise.

Facts: Jay Z’s New Album 4:44, All you need to know

 

It’s been quite a month for the Carters. Just a couple of weeks after Beyonce reportedly gave birth to twins. Jay-Z dropped his 13th solo album. “4:44” debuted Thursday night at midnight on the rapper’s music streaming platform, Tidal, and the Internet has buzzed about it all week

As a smarter than your average rapper, his lyrics have always required a bit of thinking to figure out what he means.

To help fans out he revealed the meaning behind every song in an interview with Iheart Radio.

This is Jay Z’s first album in 4 years.

‘Kill Jay Z’

“The first song is called ‘Kill Jay Z’ and obviously, it’s not to be taken literal. It’s really about the ego. It’s about killing off the ego, so we can have this conversation in a place of vulnerability and honesty.”

‘The Story of O.J.’

“‘The Story of O.J.’ is really a song about we as a culture, having a plan, how we’re gonna push this forward. We all make money, and then we all lose money, as artists especially. But how, when you have some type of success, to transform that into something bigger.”

‘Smile’

“‘Smile’ is just what it is. There are gonna be bad times, and those bad times can do two things: they can get you in a place where you’re stuck in a rut, or it can make your future that much better because you’ve experienced these things.”

‘Caught Their Eyes’

“‘Caught Their Eyes’ is a song that’s dealing with just being aware of your surroundings. There’s a line in it, and it says, ‘Your body language is all remedial, how could you see the difference between you and I?’ Just being so sharp about your surroundings.”

‘4:44’

“‘4:44’ is a song that I wrote, and it’s the crux of the album, just right in the middle of the album. And I woke up, literally, at 4:44 in the morning, 4:44 AM, to write this song. So it became the title of the album and everything. It’s the title track because it’s such a powerful song, and I just believe one of the best songs I’ve ever written.”

‘Family Feud’

“‘Family Feud’ is about separation within the culture. Like, new rappers fighting with old rappers, saying all these things. So, the line is, ‘Nobody wins when the family feuds.’”

‘Bam’

“The song ‘Bam’ with Damian Marley, it’s just jammin’, it’s just like the song. But it’s secretly Shawn Carter saying, ‘Man, you need a bit of ego.’ It was because of me and the things that I’ve done, this is JAY-Z saying you needed a bit of ego for us to arrive at this point.”

‘Moonlight’

“The hook is ‘We stuck in La La Land/Even if we win, we gonna lose.’ It’s like a subtle nod to La La Land winning the Oscar, and then having to give it to Moonlight. It’s really a commentary on the culture and where we’re going.”

‘Marcy Me’

“‘Marcy Me’ is a nostalgic walk through Marcy, and it’s about that hopefulness, that feeling of, ‘Man, can I really do this? Can I really be one of the biggest artists in the world?’ You have these dreams, ‘Can I be one of the biggest basketball players?’ We have these dreams.”

‘Legacy’

“The song is just about what it is, it’s like a verbal will. Just a song about speaking to my daughter. She starts the song off, and she says ‘Daddy, what’s a will?’”

OMG!!: Grown man slapped by a Woman (Photos)

An elderly man received more than he bargained for in a commercial bus after he tried to finger a young lady.

According to Facebook user Damilola Oduolowu who shared the story, the incident took place this morning in Lagos while on his road to work from Ikorodu.

He wrote:
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‘AGRO’, SEDUCTION OR LUNACY?

My journey from Ikorodu to work everyday is always not interesting cos of the hours i spend in traffic.
Taking public transport, i enjoy boarding BRT (Blue bus or some times Red bus). No one to disturb your peace, i just plug in my earpiece to watch a movie, listen to music or in most cases, read or write. TATA (White) bus is a
‘No No’ for me because it stinks and that’s where you find all sorts of things.

The naturally loudspeaker voiced self-acclaimed marketers who sell herbal mixtures that cure tens of diseases won’t just allow you rest. All the drama of this life happen on the TATA bus, sometimes formerly called ‘Ise Oluwa’ bus.

That’s why I always prefer the Red BRT whenever i cannot queue for the Blue one. Of course with the mindset that i would be in traffic for about 2hours. Most times it is always the same time you spend queueing for the Blue one so what’s the point wasting my energy to queue for that long.

So this morning, i decided to board the Red one. This is assumed and expected to be saner than the drama stage called TATA. No advert, No babalawo, No preaching and so on.

I took my seat as the ticketer/conductor called in passengers. We moved and gradually approached the massive standstill traffic.

Few minutes later, we all on the bus started hearing slaps in sequence, accompanied with a female voice. We all looked to the direction of the latest drama. Honestly, i thought i had seen it all before. It was from about 3 seats behind me. A man who was sitting beside a good looking chic was being slapped by her angrily. His guilt look was like that of a child who was caught stealing meat from a pot.

Ha! Surprisingly, we tried to understand the reason why this lady kept slapping the poor older man.
He was trying to finger me, mad man! He slid his two fingers into my skirt! She said (in Yoruba language).
Words failed me.

The man received almost a hundred of slaps as passengers (mostly guys) close to the seat registered their annoyance on his face. He was pushed away and punished to join standing passengers.

With a disdainful look, everyone started to discuss the issue.
(Both in Yoruba and English) That’s a bad attitude! He is a disgrace to men! Maybe he is not normal!

And the argument took another shape when some said; ‘He must have been seduced into acting that way, check out what the lady is wearing’.

It went worse when someone said the man might be a ritualist, a baddo.
Ermmmm…. Really? Okay, let me just keep hearing the arguments cos i won’t judge anyone. Could this be agro? I asked myself, laughing as i chatted to a friend about it on WhatsApp.

Soon, slaps resumed on the man. His eyes turned red already and he was looking like he’s going to die. I had to advise him; bros just go down and enter another bus if you don’t want a coma.

If someone told me this story, i wouldn’t have believed. What could this be? I don’t understand at all.
And one question remains accurately unanswered in my mind, Is this ‘Agro’, Seduction or Lunacy?

Article: Wearing My Afro Is Always a Political Act

For black women, stereotypes associated with Afros can’t be shed, but their appeal is a nod to history and tradition

When I cut my hair last summer, I sheared 12 inches of chemically straightened hair from the coarser curls closest to my scalp. I had only an inch of hair in its natural state; at the time, I felt free.

I was working from home for a non-profit, so I didn’t think much about how my “big chop” would be received by my co-workers. A few months after the haircut, though, my contract ended and I was on the job market again with a rapidly-sprouting afro. It was the first time in 15 years of professional life that I’d ever interviewed for office positions with my hair in its natural state.

I was wary enough to poll my social media feeds: Should I straighten my afro? Should I get braided extensions that could be styled into a neat, efficient updo? Or should I walk in unapologetically, my hair as free as it was on the day I cut it? Feedback was wide-ranging. One friend admonished me to avoid braids, suggesting I’d only be replacing one stereotype (“militant”) with another (“ghetto”). Others told me I was right to rethink walking in “with a bush.” A blowout was gingerly suggested. Eventually, I sauntered into those interviews with my TWA—teeny weeny afro—in part because I resented that I’d had to deliberate at all. That none of my interviewers mentioned my hair directly afforded me a few sighs of relief, but every time I apply for a new position, I return to those same aesthetic anxieties.

Last week, Allure reminded me of this when it published a feature on afros that entirely erased women of color (“You (Yes, You) Can Get An Afro*” the headline read, with an asterisk: “*even if you have straight hair”). In 2015, only particularly willful ignorance could account for an afro hairstyle magazine spread that treats the afro as a white woman’s entitlement. “An Afro is not an introvert’s hairstyle,” they write, apparently uninterested in its political overtones. “This is confident hair.”

I am an introvert, and I owe whatever confidence my afro projects to the women and men of the ’60s and ’70s Black Power movement, who originated the style and provided me a template for how to deal with any backlash I might receive for wearing it.

For black women and those women whose hair is like mine—tightly coiled, not loosely curly—that confidence isn’t an aesthetic option. It’s a necessity, as we navigate professional and public spaces where our natural hair won’t always be welcome. The decision to wear an afro or any other “unstraightened” hairstyle is only as “ballsy” and “powerful”—Allure’s words—as our ability to obtain and maintain employment, navigate stereotypes and discrimination, and deal with microaggressions like unwanted hair-touching. (That’s not even to mention that to wear an afro means we have to convince ourselves that years of advertising positioning straight hair as necessary to either enhance our beauty or to boost our chances at professional advancement were wrong.)

Writer Bridget Marie addressed some of these affronts in a satirical post over at Medium:

Get ready to spend an inordinate amount of time worrying about what others are thinking about your hair. Do they think you look “too ethnic?” “Unpolished?” “Too political?” Will a prospective employer be less likely to hire you if you show up with your Fro to a job interview? These are all real questions you’re going to need to start thinking through if you’re planning on rocking those curls.

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Natural hair discrimination in the workplace has been widely reported. Ebony covered it in a 2013 op-ed, titled “Natural Hair vs. Corporate America: Why Are We Still Fighting This Battle?” DiversityInc addressed it in an advice column: “Do Blacks Need to Relax Their Natural Hair to Get Promoted?” In 1981, the case of Rogers vs. American Airlines made national news headlines, when Renee Rogers, a black woman employed with the airline, was told that her cornrow hairstyle violated the company’s grooming policy. She filed an action against the airline on the grounds of racial discrimination, and not only was her complaint dismissed—a federal court judged claimed Rogers failed to prove racism was at play—but she was also accused of mimicking white actress Bo Derek’s hairstyle¹ in the 1979 film, 10.

It’s impossible for a “light-hearted” summer trend piece like Allure’s to be well-received, given how prominent the history of natural hair discrimination is in this country. Just last year, the Congressional Black Caucus took the U.S. military to task for its grooming policies, which barred cornrows, twists, and dreadlocks. The Transportation Security Administration has also come under fire for disproportionately patting down black women’s hair—especially their afros. It’s a practice TSA only agreed to stop five months ago, when it reached an agreement with the ACLU of Northern California, which had filed a complaint in 2012.

Of course the afro also has a much longer historical precedent, which Essence Gant at Buzzfeed pointed out in her coverage of Allure’s afro fallout:

Not only did the magazine choose to not use a black model with straight hair, it failed to reference the very sacred and political context of the natural style, worn during the American Civil Rights era as a symbol of black pride and protest for equality.

Allure responded to Buzzfeed with a statement that still failed to acknowledge any of the cultural insensitivity their feature implied:

The Afro has a rich cultural and aesthetic history. In this story, we show women using different hairstyles as an individual expressions [sic] of style. Using beauty and hair as a form of self-expression is a mirror of what’s happening in our country today. The creativity is limitless—and pretty wonderful.

Contrary to Allure’s plucky defense, the afro has never been an individual expression of style for the women who originated it. It’s a collective expression of culture, history, and genetics. As author Bebe Moore Campbell wrote in a 1982 issue of Ebony, “In the ’60s and ’70s, the Afro was more than hair; it was a symbol of black pride, a silent affirmation of African roots and the beauty of blackness.” Allure is right that the afro holds a mirror up to this country, but the reflections must vary when black women with naturally kinky hair and white women with naturally straight look into it. The woman I see reflected at me is very clear: As a black woman choosing not to straighten my hair, I am at risk of being viewed as a professional liability, or of being forbidden a personal freedom granted everyone else.

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Though it’s often said that imitation is the highest form of flattery, it’s hard to feel praised by Allure’s mimicry. It ignores history and pretends as though an afro is a breezy, ephemeral, late-summer fad, and not a hard-earned declaration of cultural acceptance and self-worth.

It is tempting to divorce aesthetic statements from their cumbersome histories. A year of wearing my hair the way it grows from my scalp, however, without heat or chemical alteration, has taught me that history is inescapable. An afro is a signifier. On a black woman, it invokes the black power movement, “black is beautiful” counterculture campaigns, and decades of discrimination. It was impossible to be confident or feel good wearing it until I accepted that. I feel that I am a more authentic version of myself than I was when a foot of straightened hair hung limp in my face; that authenticity makes me feel more beautiful. I didn’t know it until it was gone, but I was hiding behind a curtain of chemically relaxed hair. Wearing an afro has been like stepping out of camouflage.

It’s much easier for me to achieve this hairstyle than it is for a woman with straight hair, but it’s much easier for them to wear it without repercussion. For them, it’s aesthetic drag; for me, it’s become a kind of social combat. Every day, I go out into a world that resents my afro. Every day that I choose not to straighten it, I win.

1. A 1980 profile in People notes the irony of Derek being credited with popularizing cornrows: “African tribes, like the Masai of Kenya and the Nzinga of Nigeria, began it centuries ago. In the U.S. black women like Cicely Tyson have been cornrowing their hair for years.” The piece also notes that a black woman, Ann Collins, was Derek’s “official braider” on the set of 10.

Adapted from STACIA L. BROWN

Recommended: 5 Awesome TV Series You Should Begin to Watch Today

There are so many awesome TV shows that are worth spending the time to binge watch. In fact, I’m pretty sure that television shows are almost better when you watch them in a restricted interval of time, a system also known as binge watching.

I’m almost addicted to binge watching. With programs out there like Netflix and up to date streaming sites like putlocker, it’s nearly impossible not to get suckered into binge watching at one point or another.

Allow me to share just a few of my favorite binge-watching shows. Hopefully you’ll find a few awesome TV shows you’ve never seen, or maybe even your new favorite show!

They are;

Ofcos this has to be my top favorite show. Brooklyn Nine-Nine is an American police sitcom show. It has won two Creative Arts Emmy Awards, and two Golden Globe Awards: one for Best Television Series – Musical or Comedy and one for Andy Samberg for Best Actor – Television Series Musical or Comedy.

Archer is an American adult animated spy sitcom created by Adam Reed for the FX network. The series focuses on the life and exploits of Sterling Archer, the self-proclaimed ‘”world’s greatest secret agent.” The first four seasons focus on him working for the fictional spy agency ISIS, under his mother, Malory. Since then, they have become drug dealers, arms dealers, CIA agents, private investigators and most recently, post-World War II detectives.

The show places a group of strangers in an isolated location, where they must provide food, water, fire, and shelter for themselves. The contestants compete in challenges for rewards and immunity from elimination. The contestants are progressively eliminated from the game as they are voted out by their fellow contestants, until only one remains and is given the title of “Sole Survivor” and is awarded the grand prize of US$1,000,000.

Lucifer is an American fantasy police procedural comedy-drama television series developed by Tom Kapinos

The Amazing Race is an American reality competition show in which typically eleven teams of two race around the world. The race is generally split into twelve legs, with each leg requiring teams to deduce clues, navigate themselves in foreign areas, interact with locals, perform physical and mental challenges, and vie for airplane, boat, taxi, and other public transportation options on a limited budget provided by the show. Teams are progressively eliminated at the end of most legs, while the first team to arrive at the end of the final leg wins the grand prize of US$1 million.